The Background Story

Throughout High School and essentially all of my formative years I had never been that girl who was in relationships. I had actually never been in a relationship. Relationships never actually seemed feasible or necessary at that point in my life. So as a High School christian girl I accepted that The Lord's plan for my life at that moment was to remain single. I never viewed that as a disadvantage or a problem, though it was definitely not always easy.

Watching my friends in their successful and happy relationships definitely made it harder for me to be happy being single. Although my friends were seemingly happy and content with their relationships, I too was happy in the lack thereof. The Lord was, and still is my number one. He is beyond a shadow of a doubt the one I love first and foremost and with all of myself. That in itself is seemingly the most important thing. Before you can even think or dream of being with someone else you need to love God and through him love yourself in the best way to honor him.

I had always viewed relationships seriously. There has never been a time when I wasn't waiting for that "Prince Charming." My Prince Charming, who loves Jesus unconditionally and would come and rescue me from my single christian girl status. In high school I brushed of the fact that I didn't have that AMAZING christian boyfriend who loved Jesus and loved me. I didn't need a guy. I was content. I loved myself because The Lord loves me unconditionally. But all that's not to say that not having a boyfriend and experiencing that isn't extremely hard.

Fast forward to college. I am currently a college woman still loving The Lord and trusting in his plan for my life. Coming to college I never would have imagined that I would make a good number of christian girl friends so quickly, it has been such a blessing and I thank The Lord everyday for that! Needless to say I am still single but I am now fulfilling his purpose for me as a strong woman.

That being said, I never would have imagined how much harder it would be to avoid the "do you have a boyfriend?" conversation. While I love my college setting and my fabulous sisters in Christ it has become so much harder to avoid the fact that I am a single christian woman. Being single in college as a christian woman has its advantages, yet for me as of late it seems to have more disadvantages.  I have found myself, like never before, strongly wishing I had a boyfriend.

Some of my closest friends now are in relationships that I only hope reach the marriage stage long down the road. And then there is me. A single christian woman waiting for that single christian guy to come along. A single christian guy whom The Lord has intended for me. It seems as though now more than ever that has become of a high importance to me. Going from independent and happy in high school to single and waiting in college is something that I am adjusting to.

The Lord's timing is something that is so perfect and yet so unknown at the same time.

So as a single christian woman in college, it becomes even more real as the years go by and you grow in The Lord that you're very own Prince Charming is out there. You may not know who he is, you most likely don't. But that is expected and that is okay because The Lord has a plan and he loves you more than you can ever even imagine. Of course it gets hard at times being single, I know I go through that irrational struggle more than I ever should. Because the fact is The Lord's plan for you romantically is out of your control. As we live each day when simply trust and live in faith that it will all work out.

I know that personally when I read, Song of Songs 3:5 "Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires" The Lord is working in my life and that of my future beloved.

At this point in my life and always my beloved is Jesus. But somewhere there is my Prince Charming, your very own Prince Charming that The Lord made for you. Patience and trust in God is what we need. No matter the valley or the loneliness you feel regarding your single christian woman status, the college influence, there is nothing greater than God's love for you and his plan for your life and your love.

We are so immensely blessed by our King, we needn't fret over not having a Prince quite yet. The Lord calls all times soon and soon enough you Princess will have your Prince.